If I were to describe how I want to be treated: I don’t want to have to ask to be touched by someone whose touch I want. Having the touch come unbidden is exci

If I were to describe how I want to be treated: I don’t want to have to ask to be touched by someone whose touch I want. Having the touch come unbidden is exciting and satisfying. But I don’t want to be touched by someone who’s touch is repellant to me (by any degree). Having to experience or rebuff the touch is uncomfortable or disturbing. Of course it’s tough to have it both ways! I err on the side of expecting less confirmation in exchange for more of that first example. But as for how I treat others? I err on the side of verbal confirmation, so as to avoid crossing a line someone else takes more seriously than I do. So far it’s working alright! Is it the best system? Hard to say.