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Interesting read. It sounds like you lack a "mission" that your startup job provided, and just any old arbitrary mission can't replace it. My advice would be t

Interesting read. It sounds like you lack a "mission" that your startup job provided, and just any old arbitrary mission can't replace it. My advice would be to figure out what you want out of life: wife, kids, where would you live, what would you do, etc. And I don't mean look fir a new job I mean what do you want to dedicate your life to. Maybe religion, maybe service work, maybe cocaine and hookers. It's up to you. Then, figure out a plan on what you need to do to achieve it. You seem to believe that the point of working is the work itself, but the reality is that the point of working is to get money so you can fund your life. Anyways, you are the only one who can answer what your life goals are and what you need to do to do them so be honest with yourself when your thinking about it

19032019_anon 8y ago
The problem is, I don't know what I want out of life right now. I like to drink and party, but that's not a "mission." I would like a wife and children someday, but not soon. Same thing with home ownership. I don't really know what I want immediately. > but the reality is that the point of working is to get money so you can fund your life. When I left X, I got some severance pay. So my life right now is essentially funded, and I still feel lost.
- mrburton 8y ago
  Sounds like that's a part of your problem. No sense of belonging/purpose. If you find yourself focusing on "What you want from life" and feel compelled to get an answer, maybe you need to distract yourself mentally from that and not force it. A lot of people mentally struggle when they don't know what they want from life. It can make you feel "worthless". You end up sleeping late because.. why get out of bed.I took 2 years off of work and went through all of this. The answer for me was a) mentally accepting myself and b) find work that I felt good about. e.g, I did a days worth of work. Yes I'm not changing the world or solving Null Pointer Exceptions for everyone, but hey.. fuck it. I'm doing something. I always remind myself to a) Not judge myself so hard because in 200 years or less no one will remember me. Thats okay and b) Life is better when you learn to accept yourself even if you're not gods gift to everyone else.. P.S., Everyone will learn to think of me as an amazing person! I'm just giving everyone time lol jk

19032019_anon 8y ago

The problem is, I don't know what I want out of life right now. I like to drink and party, but that's not a "mission." I would like a wife and children someday, but not soon. Same thing with home ownership. I don't really know what I want immediately. > but the reality is that the point of working is to get money so you can fund your life. When I left X, I got some severance pay. So my life right now is essentially funded, and I still feel lost.

mrburton 8y ago
Sounds like that's a part of your problem. No sense of belonging/purpose. If you find yourself focusing on "What you want from life" and feel compelled to get an answer, maybe you need to distract yourself mentally from that and not force it. A lot of people mentally struggle when they don't know what they want from life. It can make you feel "worthless". You end up sleeping late because.. why get out of bed.I took 2 years off of work and went through all of this. The answer for me was a) mentally accepting myself and b) find work that I felt good about. e.g, I did a days worth of work. Yes I'm not changing the world or solving Null Pointer Exceptions for everyone, but hey.. fuck it. I'm doing something. I always remind myself to a) Not judge myself so hard because in 200 years or less no one will remember me. Thats okay and b) Life is better when you learn to accept yourself even if you're not gods gift to everyone else.. P.S., Everyone will learn to think of me as an amazing person! I'm just giving everyone time lol jk