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I knew a guy who had changed significantly after a weekend retreat with some cultish experience (Landmark Forum, I am, or something like that). 48 hours of inte
by beagle3 8y ago
I knew a guy who had changed significantly after a weekend retreat with some cultish experience (Landmark Forum, I am, or something like that). 48 hours of intensive experience though no pharmaceutical.
He was on every kind of excellence list at uni, on 3 different merit scholarships (which all unfortunately went directly to the uni, not personally to him).
That weekend was in the middle of the semester; he basically quit that week, but still came in to campus to complete his TA duties which are hard to drop mid semester; then went on an around-the-world trip for a year. I met him once randomly on the street afterwards, and he said he was happier than ever before, with no intention of going back to his studies or any other aspect of his former life.
I had told this around the time he came back from his trip to two of my friends, neither of whom knew that guy.
One’s response was “wow, that weekend saved him from decades of misery”.
The other’s response was “wow, that weekend had ruined him forever”.
20 years later, I still don’t have a firm opinion myself.
- V3ritas1337 8y agoMaybe the course he was doing was not for him but didn't have the guts or confidence to move on, psychedelics really open you up, and at the end of the day if he is happy, he is winning at life. Regardless of career aspirations etc.
- dfxm12 8y agoOne’s response was “wow, that weekend saved him from decades of misery”. The other’s response was “wow, that weekend had ruined him forever”. The truth is in the eye of the beholder, of course. "Save" and "ruin" is such strong language though. However, I'm willing to bet this guy is better off not worrying about others think, and maybe, by extension, you're better off for not judging.
- indalo 8y agoLandmark forum is a self improvement seminar with pretty cult-ish tendencies. I lost a really good friend to it as well.