sigh. It feels scary to feel blamed, I know, and whether you think you're a doormat or not, is important but it's not the main point. The point is, you're not t

sigh. It feels scary to feel blamed, I know, and whether you think you're a doormat or not, is important but it's not the main point. The point is, you're not the victims. The people who died are the victims. And pointing the finger, playing the blame game (instead of asking how can we do better in the wake of this tragedy) doesn't honour them, and it doesn't help. Just refuse to be the fake victim. That's weak. Don't make it about you, choose to make it about what can be improved.