How do you dismantle a cycle of abuse without first understanding the incentives and power relations which are the pieces of that abusive system? —— I ask thi

How do you dismantle a cycle of abuse without first understanding the incentives and power relations which are the pieces of that abusive system? —— I ask this as someone who has been accused of making excuses when I was explaining a problem ans asking for help in solving the problem: What is it about the above comment that seems like excuses?