The low self-esteem is a very valid point. I've had some very strong negative reactions to people telling me to "get over it" in terms of a couple of personal i

The low self-esteem is a very valid point. I've had some very strong negative reactions to people telling me to "get over it" in terms of a couple of personal insecurities and faults, and going over the thoughts makes it worse, at least in terms of dealing with the emotions as valid. In fact, thinking about these faults conventionally leads to a deepening of the unwanted behavior. Having started to meditate in the Vipassana style has started to teach me to accept, but not embrace these emotions. In a less hippy-dippy way, there could be actualization training that helps people get on the right path first, defeating these types of emotions.