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Fully quitting porn has had a tremendous positive impact in my life. But it was extremely difficult to do it. I’ve found a group of people to help and support m

Fully quitting porn has had a tremendous positive impact in my life. But it was extremely difficult to do it. I’ve found a group of people to help and support me through this and our experiences are fairly similar. I would say that anyone who thinks porn isn’t affecting them should try to quit fully for a few months and see. It costs nothing, and you might find out that you have less control than you thought. The effects can be more subtle than what is mentioned in this article: for example constantly craving for novelty despite being in a good relationship with someone you love.

stcredzero 8y ago
I haven't quit (yet) but I did have a moment of revelation. I realized that I was taking all this effort, closing my eyes trying to bring back moments from videos. Then I opened my eyes and looked into the face of my spouse, and rediscovered something.
bargl 8y ago
I kinda went the opposite path to the same end result. In my 20s I watched almost no porn. This was kinda crazy to most people. When I did pick up the habit for a while after I had kids, I noticed a marked decline in my interest in putting out "effort" to have romance when a video would suffice. I found porn made me lazy, not impotent. Anyway, cutting that out has been really good, it makes me have to work to maintain a healthy relationship with my wife. This is obviously anecdotal, I went through a lot of changes in that time period as well, not working out as much, having kids, etc. But it's a little thing I can control to make life happier.
hnthrowaway543 8y ago
How did you quit? I just can't seem to do it for long :(
- sreyaNotfilc 8y ago
  I'm struggling with it. I guess that realizing that it is a problem helps. Remember, porn is not the problem, abuse of it is. Its to the point that I can't sleep well without it. That's bad. What I'm doing, right now, is to create a simple chart of the days that I venture to the "dark side". So when I do go, I know in the back of my mind that I will have to write this stuff down. Another step is, when you find yourself going down that rabbit hole, to do you best to stop it immediately. Your mind is very clever at making excuses like "You deserve to see this. Its just this one time. Promise." For me, what I ended up having to do is to get out of the room of the device and let myself relax. Its getting warmer out. So I'll probably take a walk around the block if I notice the habit returning. I want to get rid of it so badly. Support groups are out there either virtually or in person. Perhaps that's another way to go about it. Good luck!
- dontreact 8y ago
  I tried a lot of things. Ultimately admitting it was an addiction and seeking professional treatment. This program was very powerful for me and is ultimately what got me clean. https://www.themindfulhabit.com/ https://www.themindfulhabit.com/
- NavyNuke 8y ago
  Every time you feel like looking at porn, do 25 push ups.
  - dontreact 8y ago
    Have you been successful with this? I think there is a real need to go much deeper psychologically into figuring out why you are drawn to it, what needs it fulfills and how to fulfill those needs in healthier ways. That plus vigorously pursuing a set of goals.

stcredzero 8y ago

I haven't quit (yet) but I did have a moment of revelation. I realized that I was taking all this effort, closing my eyes trying to bring back moments from videos. Then I opened my eyes and looked into the face of my spouse, and rediscovered something.

bargl 8y ago

I kinda went the opposite path to the same end result. In my 20s I watched almost no porn. This was kinda crazy to most people. When I did pick up the habit for a while after I had kids, I noticed a marked decline in my interest in putting out "effort" to have romance when a video would suffice. I found porn made me lazy, not impotent. Anyway, cutting that out has been really good, it makes me have to work to maintain a healthy relationship with my wife. This is obviously anecdotal, I went through a lot of changes in that time period as well, not working out as much, having kids, etc. But it's a little thing I can control to make life happier.

hnthrowaway543 8y ago

How did you quit? I just can't seem to do it for long :(

sreyaNotfilc 8y ago
I'm struggling with it. I guess that realizing that it is a problem helps. Remember, porn is not the problem, abuse of it is. Its to the point that I can't sleep well without it. That's bad. What I'm doing, right now, is to create a simple chart of the days that I venture to the "dark side". So when I do go, I know in the back of my mind that I will have to write this stuff down. Another step is, when you find yourself going down that rabbit hole, to do you best to stop it immediately. Your mind is very clever at making excuses like "You deserve to see this. Its just this one time. Promise." For me, what I ended up having to do is to get out of the room of the device and let myself relax. Its getting warmer out. So I'll probably take a walk around the block if I notice the habit returning. I want to get rid of it so badly. Support groups are out there either virtually or in person. Perhaps that's another way to go about it. Good luck!
dontreact 8y ago
I tried a lot of things. Ultimately admitting it was an addiction and seeking professional treatment. This program was very powerful for me and is ultimately what got me clean. https://www.themindfulhabit.com/ https://www.themindfulhabit.com/
NavyNuke 8y ago
Every time you feel like looking at porn, do 25 push ups.
- dontreact 8y ago
  Have you been successful with this? I think there is a real need to go much deeper psychologically into figuring out why you are drawn to it, what needs it fulfills and how to fulfill those needs in healthier ways. That plus vigorously pursuing a set of goals.