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Sure. Just a few things that stand out: - Constant criticism and nitpicking. Essentially I feel like nothing I do is right and even the smallest mistakes get a
by finaliteration 8y ago
Sure. Just a few things that stand out:
- Constant criticism and nitpicking. Essentially I feel like nothing I do is right and even the smallest mistakes get a private Teams message about how I shouldn’t have done X, and then any apology from me is basically met with “Ok” as a response rather than any sort of empathy. I don’t think I’ve ever felt like small mistakes in a new position were never allowed.
- Micromanaging and controlling. They referred to themselves as a “dictator” on more that one occasion and had a “my way or the highway” attitude. I was hired on at a senior level and essentially ended up with close to zero input on design choices, so basically I stopped giving my opinion because I knew it would always be met with being shut down.
- I also felt singled out and was essentially told not to socialize in our Teams channels. This cut me off from the team quite a bit and made me feel totally isolated. I’d also try to suggest things globally so that knowledge could be shared and discussed with everyone. Again, I’d get a follow up message on Teams about how I shouldn’t be doing that and any suggestions like that need to be discussed with the manager first.
That’s just a few things. Overall, it’s just a feeling of not having any autonomy and any attempts to gain any being shut down. I want to say they maybe feel threatened, but I don’t like to jump to that conclusion.
Maybe it’s not yelling and screaming, but it’s a more passive-aggressive type of abuse and toxicity that in some ways digs deeper because it’s not easy to pick up on immediately or as visible.
- flashgordon 8y agoDamn that is toxic! Thanks for sharing mate. Glad you are getting out. Hope you didn't have any Visa issues that would have made the stay unnecessarily longer. I know how stressful it is to stick at a job just because you need to. Hope your next role and manager are energizing and engaging!
- finaliteration 8y agoThanks! Fortunately I don’t have any Visa issues to deal with. Could have been a nightmare otherwise. I put my notice in last week and they terminated me early today because they didn’t “have anything left for me to do” in the next few days, which I think is code for “I’m pissed you’re leaving so I’m going to make it look like I’m in control”.