I don't know where you come from and what your background is, but where I live, contact to the (average) people is not that bad. It turns out that my inner emot

I don't know where you come from and what your background is, but where I live, contact to the (average) people is not that bad. It turns out that my inner emotional state has the most impact on my ability on interacting with people. If I'm in a good mood, I can be charming, curious and cheerful. If I'm irritated... not so much. So I suggest to first keep yourself in a good mood. In my case, sleep is my most important mood factor. Second, you can try a bunch of tricks like smiling, genuinely listening, asking curious questions. Humor and irony can help to ease the conversation, sarcasm to round somebody. I think your basic idea to make it for both as pleasant as possible, is on the right track. It just needs a little training in both introspective and empathy. Also, instead to indulge yourself in avoidance behavior, try to open up and confront yourself with people. It won't get better without practice.