It's possible that a specific genetic makeup or upbringing may also play a role in the outcome. But it helps if you can somehow see your tragedy as also the th

It's possible that a specific genetic makeup or upbringing may also play a role in the outcome. But it helps if you can somehow see your tragedy as also the thing that eventually lead to a better life. The type of "every kick in the butt is one step forward". I've met many people (close friends included) who are genuinely at peace with certain tragic/life altering events from childhood or adulthood because without that they would have or be less than they do now. Of course sometimes you simply can't see that event as bringing anything remotely good in your life and have to wrestle with those issues for a long time.