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How can ever parents do something like this. I can't imagine how did she survived, not just physically but emotionally.

dsfyu404ed 8y ago
Kids can be surprisingly durable in pretty much every way imaginable. Edit: We're talking about one bad event early in childhood here, not spending an entire childhood with abusive parents.
- saiya-jin 8y ago
  Yes but then you meet them as adults and they exhibit (and unsuccessfully try to hide) tons of mental issues due to messed up childhood. Usually revolves around trusting others in relationships and this trickles down to many aspects of their lives
  - RankingMember 8y ago
    Yeah, I've seen it both ways. Some people have learned to bottle up their negative childhoods, leading to various outward behavioral clues, while others seem like they were able to get past it somehow and live truly without that baggage holding them back.
    - amerkhalid 8y ago
      Recently, I was reading Brain Rules for Baby by John Medina. IIRC, he said that normally people will have permanent psychological damage and but a few humans seem to get past childhood trauma. There are some genes which seem to make children more resilient. So resilience might be partially hereditary.
  - close04 8y ago
    It's possible that a specific genetic makeup or upbringing may also play a role in the outcome. But it helps if you can somehow see your tragedy as also the thing that eventually lead to a better life. The type of "every kick in the butt is one step forward". I've met many people (close friends included) who are genuinely at peace with certain tragic/life altering events from childhood or adulthood because without that they would have or be less than they do now. Of course sometimes you simply can't see that event as bringing anything remotely good in your life and have to wrestle with those issues for a long time.
- spinach 8y ago
  Trauma, abuse, sexual assault, etc, that children undergo is linked to a lot of problems later in their life, in all aspects of their life. They might live through it, but the quality of their life will suffer.
Fancygeek 8y ago
People can endure incredible amounts of pain, some of them even get used to it sadly.
pmarreck 8y ago
Depression is a mfer. Based on my thankfully brief flirtation with it, I can say this: At the bottom of the hopelessness barrel, you end up valuing everyone else’s life as little as you value your own, sadly.
- HeWhoLurksLate 8y ago
  This is one of the best descriptions I have ever read. Thank you.
  - pmarreck 8y ago
    I don't have chronic depression but I did have a period where getting kicked out of Cornell was my impending doom. I remember realizing what I described, and also like... it was like I was wearing the opposite of rose-colored glasses, the feeling covered EVERYTHING in a facade of feces, basically. If you DO suffer from depression... Get help, the world is actually OK, but you must take initiative (I did end up graduating Cornell... 8 years later)

Kids can be surprisingly durable in pretty much every way imaginable. Edit: We're talking about one bad event early in childhood here, not spending an entire childhood with abusive parents.

saiya-jin 8y ago
Yes but then you meet them as adults and they exhibit (and unsuccessfully try to hide) tons of mental issues due to messed up childhood. Usually revolves around trusting others in relationships and this trickles down to many aspects of their lives
- RankingMember 8y ago
  Yeah, I've seen it both ways. Some people have learned to bottle up their negative childhoods, leading to various outward behavioral clues, while others seem like they were able to get past it somehow and live truly without that baggage holding them back.
  - amerkhalid 8y ago
    Recently, I was reading Brain Rules for Baby by John Medina. IIRC, he said that normally people will have permanent psychological damage and but a few humans seem to get past childhood trauma. There are some genes which seem to make children more resilient. So resilience might be partially hereditary.
- close04 8y ago
  It's possible that a specific genetic makeup or upbringing may also play a role in the outcome. But it helps if you can somehow see your tragedy as also the thing that eventually lead to a better life. The type of "every kick in the butt is one step forward". I've met many people (close friends included) who are genuinely at peace with certain tragic/life altering events from childhood or adulthood because without that they would have or be less than they do now. Of course sometimes you simply can't see that event as bringing anything remotely good in your life and have to wrestle with those issues for a long time.
spinach 8y ago
Trauma, abuse, sexual assault, etc, that children undergo is linked to a lot of problems later in their life, in all aspects of their life. They might live through it, but the quality of their life will suffer.

Fancygeek 8y ago

People can endure incredible amounts of pain, some of them even get used to it sadly.

pmarreck 8y ago

Depression is a mfer. Based on my thankfully brief flirtation with it, I can say this: At the bottom of the hopelessness barrel, you end up valuing everyone else’s life as little as you value your own, sadly.

HeWhoLurksLate 8y ago
This is one of the best descriptions I have ever read. Thank you.
- pmarreck 8y ago
  I don't have chronic depression but I did have a period where getting kicked out of Cornell was my impending doom. I remember realizing what I described, and also like... it was like I was wearing the opposite of rose-colored glasses, the feeling covered EVERYTHING in a facade of feces, basically. If you DO suffer from depression... Get help, the world is actually OK, but you must take initiative (I did end up graduating Cornell... 8 years later)