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Really? Cause I'm a forty something and i still see all the same places as when i was in your situation: School, work, coffee shops, sports, social clubs, activ

Really? Cause I'm a forty something and i still see all the same places as when i was in your situation: School, work, coffee shops, sports, social clubs, activities, pretty much every place i go has opportunity to casually talk to someone. Funny enough night life locations are probably the worst: Loud, dark, competitive and everyone has their guard up. My suggestion: Seek out interesting conversation with people, don't target a potential mate. You'll greatly increase your potential pool of both friends and romantics, plus improve your standing within it

giggles_giggles 8y ago
It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. It was acceptable 10 years ago, but it is not anymore. If you don't want to be chased or told off as a creep, you should stick to people you are introduced to through a friend, online dating, and clubs/bars. Definitely not work. Definitely, definitely, definitely not work.
- newnewpdro 8y ago
  Where do you live? I've spent a lot of time in coastal California cafes near population centers like SF and Santa Cruz over the past 5 years, and it's perfectly normal for strangers to start conversations.
- astura 8y ago
  ???? It's perfectly socially acceptable to chat up women and strangers in a public place like a bar or coffee shop as long as you have proper boundaries and leave people alone if they make it clear they want to be left alone. In fact, that's how I met my husband. Nowadays we frequent the same locations and we say hi and sometimes chat up the other regulars when we see them.
- droithomme 8y ago
  > It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. Might be true for your area, not for mine. Sounds like you live in a really bad place. Have you considered moving?

giggles_giggles 8y ago

It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. It was acceptable 10 years ago, but it is not anymore. If you don't want to be chased or told off as a creep, you should stick to people you are introduced to through a friend, online dating, and clubs/bars. Definitely not work. Definitely, definitely, definitely not work.

newnewpdro 8y ago
Where do you live? I've spent a lot of time in coastal California cafes near population centers like SF and Santa Cruz over the past 5 years, and it's perfectly normal for strangers to start conversations.
astura 8y ago
???? It's perfectly socially acceptable to chat up women and strangers in a public place like a bar or coffee shop as long as you have proper boundaries and leave people alone if they make it clear they want to be left alone. In fact, that's how I met my husband. Nowadays we frequent the same locations and we say hi and sometimes chat up the other regulars when we see them.
droithomme 8y ago
> It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. Might be true for your area, not for mine. Sounds like you live in a really bad place. Have you considered moving?