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I have no idea what things were like "back in the day" but as a 20-something it's really interesting how there aren't many places (excluding 'nightlife' venues)

I have no idea what things were like "back in the day" but as a 20-something it's really interesting how there aren't many places (excluding 'nightlife' venues) were strangers can mingle and micro-conversations are frequent. The best place I can think off currently is the gym.

fhbdukfrh 8y ago
Really? Cause I'm a forty something and i still see all the same places as when i was in your situation: School, work, coffee shops, sports, social clubs, activities, pretty much every place i go has opportunity to casually talk to someone. Funny enough night life locations are probably the worst: Loud, dark, competitive and everyone has their guard up. My suggestion: Seek out interesting conversation with people, don't target a potential mate. You'll greatly increase your potential pool of both friends and romantics, plus improve your standing within it
- giggles_giggles 8y ago
  It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. It was acceptable 10 years ago, but it is not anymore. If you don't want to be chased or told off as a creep, you should stick to people you are introduced to through a friend, online dating, and clubs/bars. Definitely not work. Definitely, definitely, definitely not work.
  - newnewpdro 8y ago
    Where do you live? I've spent a lot of time in coastal California cafes near population centers like SF and Santa Cruz over the past 5 years, and it's perfectly normal for strangers to start conversations.
  - astura 8y ago
    ???? It's perfectly socially acceptable to chat up women and strangers in a public place like a bar or coffee shop as long as you have proper boundaries and leave people alone if they make it clear they want to be left alone. In fact, that's how I met my husband. Nowadays we frequent the same locations and we say hi and sometimes chat up the other regulars when we see them.
  - droithomme 8y ago
    > It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. Might be true for your area, not for mine. Sounds like you live in a really bad place. Have you considered moving?
CapricornNoble 8y ago
As a 30-something I was just discussing with some friends how "gyms are the new nightclubs". The number of "gym thots" has been exploding the past few years, even in developing countries here in Asia. Women love the attention they get when they post IG photos doing squats in yoga pants, and they'd rather get hit on by beefy gym dudes than scrawny guys who might blow over in a typhoon. For the guys, you can do something of value to you anyway (build muscles), and still oggle/talk to women without having to buy overpriced alcohol, or have your conversation drowned out by crappy music. I just don't particularly enjoy working out around people. I like having a home gym.

fhbdukfrh 8y ago

Really? Cause I'm a forty something and i still see all the same places as when i was in your situation: School, work, coffee shops, sports, social clubs, activities, pretty much every place i go has opportunity to casually talk to someone. Funny enough night life locations are probably the worst: Loud, dark, competitive and everyone has their guard up. My suggestion: Seek out interesting conversation with people, don't target a potential mate. You'll greatly increase your potential pool of both friends and romantics, plus improve your standing within it

giggles_giggles 8y ago
It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. It was acceptable 10 years ago, but it is not anymore. If you don't want to be chased or told off as a creep, you should stick to people you are introduced to through a friend, online dating, and clubs/bars. Definitely not work. Definitely, definitely, definitely not work.
- newnewpdro 8y ago
  Where do you live? I've spent a lot of time in coastal California cafes near population centers like SF and Santa Cruz over the past 5 years, and it's perfectly normal for strangers to start conversations.
- astura 8y ago
  ???? It's perfectly socially acceptable to chat up women and strangers in a public place like a bar or coffee shop as long as you have proper boundaries and leave people alone if they make it clear they want to be left alone. In fact, that's how I met my husband. Nowadays we frequent the same locations and we say hi and sometimes chat up the other regulars when we see them.
- droithomme 8y ago
  > It's not socially acceptable to chat up women at work or in a public place like a coffee shop or grocery store. Might be true for your area, not for mine. Sounds like you live in a really bad place. Have you considered moving?

CapricornNoble 8y ago

As a 30-something I was just discussing with some friends how "gyms are the new nightclubs". The number of "gym thots" has been exploding the past few years, even in developing countries here in Asia. Women love the attention they get when they post IG photos doing squats in yoga pants, and they'd rather get hit on by beefy gym dudes than scrawny guys who might blow over in a typhoon. For the guys, you can do something of value to you anyway (build muscles), and still oggle/talk to women without having to buy overpriced alcohol, or have your conversation drowned out by crappy music. I just don't particularly enjoy working out around people. I like having a home gym.