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Well....my mom and grandparents are dead and my dad is worse off financially than me so...not sure what options I really have when it comes to that.

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heavenlyblue 8y ago
That parent comment is amazing in it’s own sense: how delusional do you have to be to think that what you have there is the norm? I had a friend how is still paying off his mother’s and brother’s living. The kind of thinking that usually comes with the thinking of the parent is along the lines of “he does not have supporting parents then he must be some sort of a badly socialised monster who never had a life”. Well, or maybe it’s you who is a useless child who never grew up on the first place?
- rayiner 8y ago
  > That parent comment is amazing in it’s own sense: how delusional do you have to be to think that what you have there is the norm? It is the norm. Not having multi-generational family support is a major handicap, but that predicament is not the norm, even among less advantaged people generally.
  - grawprog 8y ago
    I know my situation is not the norm and personal experience isn't the best indicator, but I personally know more people with incomplete families and no multi-generational support than those that do. This has also only increased as i've gotten older. Whether it's through death, divorce or distance, estrangement. I realize my original comment probably doesn't speak for the majority of people's situations, but I think it's not necessarily as much of a norm as people think. I don't disagree with the parent poster, they're right, it should be the norm, I was raised in a family with strong family values but circumstances just kind of made it an impossibility and I think a lot of people and families out there, may not have the same circumstances as my life, but have had things happen that make it difficult or impossible to have close family ties.
seniorThrowaway 8y ago
I am in exact same boat as you, it's pretty common I think despite what people are saying here.

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heavenlyblue 8y ago

That parent comment is amazing in it’s own sense: how delusional do you have to be to think that what you have there is the norm? I had a friend how is still paying off his mother’s and brother’s living. The kind of thinking that usually comes with the thinking of the parent is along the lines of “he does not have supporting parents then he must be some sort of a badly socialised monster who never had a life”. Well, or maybe it’s you who is a useless child who never grew up on the first place?

rayiner 8y ago
> That parent comment is amazing in it’s own sense: how delusional do you have to be to think that what you have there is the norm? It is the norm. Not having multi-generational family support is a major handicap, but that predicament is not the norm, even among less advantaged people generally.
- grawprog 8y ago
  I know my situation is not the norm and personal experience isn't the best indicator, but I personally know more people with incomplete families and no multi-generational support than those that do. This has also only increased as i've gotten older. Whether it's through death, divorce or distance, estrangement. I realize my original comment probably doesn't speak for the majority of people's situations, but I think it's not necessarily as much of a norm as people think. I don't disagree with the parent poster, they're right, it should be the norm, I was raised in a family with strong family values but circumstances just kind of made it an impossibility and I think a lot of people and families out there, may not have the same circumstances as my life, but have had things happen that make it difficult or impossible to have close family ties.

seniorThrowaway 8y ago

I am in exact same boat as you, it's pretty common I think despite what people are saying here.