Let me add my own condolences, and reiterate that it will take longer than three months. I'm still affected by my dad's death a year ago (today) after a long an

Let me add my own condolences, and reiterate that it will take longer than three months. I'm still affected by my dad's death a year ago (today) after a long and difficult illness. You've got it even tougher, given the brutal circumstances and the suddenness of the rip in your universe. Mourning takes time, and there's not much you can do to speed up the process. I strongly suspect this folk wisdom underlies the traditional rule that a widow(er) shouldn't remarry before a year has elapsed.