> You suggested to someone that they hide their heritage so you don’t think less of them. That's actually not true, that's your warped perception of what I'm s

> You suggested to someone that they hide their heritage so you don’t think less of them. That's actually not true, that's your warped perception of what I'm saying. Your brain happens to portray me as a caricature of everything that's wrong in the world - a common bias you may not be conscious of. Let's take my standpoint to the extreme. Let's say I know there's a bunch of violent Nazis roaming the streets and I suggest not to wear a Star Of David out there in public. Does that make me a Nazi or an endorser of Nazism? If I was the Nazi, wouldn't I rather want to withhold that piece of information? In any event, your name is not your heritage and your heritage is not you. > And your inability to pronounce someone’s name is a failing in your education or experience. Your failing, not theirs. That's actually a pretty arrogant thing to say. Let's say there's an Indian restaurant chain that serves food worldwide. Are you going to say they'd be denying their heritage, if they tuned down the spices in markets where people generally can't stand hot food? Is it the failing of the people if they don't return after eating just one meal that was too spicy? You know what, maybe it is. That restaurant chain is still going out of business there. Again, if you don't care about success, go all in with staying "true to your heritage" if you like to. Keep your unpronouncable name and insist on it being pronounced correctly.