It's a great question. I would have asked the same. I think that a quality relationship is based on trust, respect, loyalty, kindness and understanding. Be it f

It's a great question. I would have asked the same. I think that a quality relationship is based on trust, respect, loyalty, kindness and understanding. Be it friendship or a romantic one. As mentioned, I have generalized my thoughts based on what I see around me. People lack these (some or all of them) qualities enormously! If you ask me for a "proof" here, I am afraid I cannot provide one, nor anyone studying social sciences can. I can only talk from what I observe, so the surroundings will have an impact of any conclusions I am afraid. With that said, and the simple fact that virtues and vices don't go hand in hand and they don't tolerate each other, I conclude most of my reasoning. La Rochefoucauld said "Hypocrisy is the compliment vice pays to virtue", and it will always be so. That's why I judge people by what they do, not what they say, and how much they smile to my face. You cannot talk about honesty, if you are dishonest. Doesn't matter that you are smiling. Doesn't matter that you are not dishonest (yet) with me. You cannot talk about loyalty if you are unfaithful. I mean, you technically can (are able), but that just reeks of hypocrisy. Typically, if you go against the flow, or make your stance known on these fronts, you'll come to the same realization I think. It's as if people don't like being "judged" (for lack of a better word), even though they might be in the wrong. They would rather make sure they are not judged than do something to better themselves. So the only option left for them is to "shoot the messenger", e.g. use social skills to diminish his value in any way possible ("asocial", "rude", "unpleasant", etc.)