>I’ve noticed that I cannot tell, from casual conversation, whether someone is intelligent in the IQ sense. For me a giveaway is both how quickly and how well

>I’ve noticed that I cannot tell, from casual conversation, whether someone is intelligent in the IQ sense. For me a giveaway is both how quickly and how well they take in what I'm saying; that is, how much processing gets done? E.g one of my really intelligent friends would have already connected what I'm saying with what they know about me, and would have already guessed at what I'll say next. This isn't just the domain of intelligent people, but for me, how quickly it happens is telltale sign. Intelligence can be blinding as much as it is enlightening, though, and I prize kindness and compassion far more than intelligence, which our culture puts on a pedestal.