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If you can't have conversations and even discussions about meaningful or controversial subjects with your friends, I would say they were never actually your fri
by KozmoNau7 8y ago
If you can't have conversations and even discussions about meaningful or controversial subjects with your friends, I would say they were never actually your friends.
I am friends with some people whom I wildly disagree with on a number of subjects, especially politics. But we have common ground in shared interests (music and whisky), and we use that as a basis for civilized discussion. We might disagree wildly and be political "enemies", but we are still more alike than we are different.
- humanrebar 8y agoI have some friends I can talk about anything with. I have some friends that aren't capable of doing that, at least not with me. If I expect my friends to be perfect, I'm not a very good friend.
- KozmoNau7 8y agoThat's exactly what I mean, it goes both ways. If you can't respect each other, either one or both of you aren't an actual friend.
- humanrebar 8y agoI can respect someone and consider them a friend without discussing, for example, my sex life with them. It's not a matter of respect necessarily. Sometimes it's propriety. Sometimes it's disinterest. Sometimes it's insensitive to dig into certain subjects with that particular person. Sometimes it's a time when they have bigger needs than I do and I'd rather not focus on my problems when I'm around them. There is such a thing as discretion. It is healthy. Even with friends.