I've gone down this rabbit hole before (albeit around ten years ago), I think the closest there are are the Alfie Kohn books. E.g. No Contest, Punished by Rewar

I've gone down this rabbit hole before (albeit around ten years ago), I think the closest there are are the Alfie Kohn books. E.g. No Contest, Punished by Rewards, etc. Those are more about parenting and the school system, there aren't really any books on early childhood development if that's what you're looking for.