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Hopefully, you'll never have to make this decision. In the interim, why judge someone else?

• perfmode 8y ago
  Because the children are people, too.
• maxxxxx 8y ago
  When my grandmother declined my parents didn't tell me that she is dying for quite a while. I resented this for a long time once I learned. People should not be protected from reality but helped dealing with it. Should add: I don't think thinking someone is making a mistake is judging them.
  • nate_meurer 8y ago
    From the article: > Some might not have made the same decision, believing that the girls had a right to know they should savor diminishing moments. But Marla didn’t want her girls to savor; she wanted them to sail, and that meant less information—not a lie, but a lacuna. Marla refused to let family time together feel too precious, too heightened, too sad. and... > Our girls have talked often about their mother’s sacrifice and said to me without prompting, “I am so glad I didn’t know what Mommy was going through. I would have worried every single day.” In these past two months, they have reassured me again and again that not telling them was the loving choice. It's apparent that your experience, valid and valuable as it is, does not compare. Not at all, not even remotely. If you ever have to make a decision like this, God forbid, you may well make it differently, as Mr. Mehlman says. But given your distance from the Mehlmans in personality and situation, I honestly don't think your evaluation of their actions can be relevant to anyone except yourself.
• nmstoker 8y ago
  What's wrong with judging people? It's essential to life. What often needs more care is being thoughtful with the outcome so people don't feel bad.