I think the paradoxon is that you dont have to use violence if you are able and willing to do so if necessary. If both parties(comparable strength) in a confli

I think the paradoxon is that you dont have to use violence if you are able and willing to do so if necessary. If both parties(comparable strength) in a conflict think the other will use violence if necessary they often will try to settle it in an other way. But because the west was dominant for so long we are not used to actually use that violence in a serious way anymore. So we as a society forget how real conflict feels like. They ones in the middle east are to one sided to really count in my opinion. While this is on a national level i think it also trickles down to everyday life and explains this shift. I think there are some conflicts that you just cant settle with words. And funny enough most of the fights i had (as a kid/teenager) actually caused me to get better along with the person i fought.