I think this could be a good example of the theory. I'm afraid that your partner believing you have done something is a bit unlucky! But you should ask her what

I think this could be a good example of the theory. I'm afraid that your partner believing you have done something is a bit unlucky! But you should ask her what she is doing in the dream when you are doing something bad to them. If she is repressing her response to you in the dream, I am suggesting it is likely that she is repressing this emotion in waking life too.