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In any case where a 'fuck you' is warranted deadpan silence works better.
by faissaloo 8y ago
In any case where a 'fuck you' is warranted deadpan silence works better.
- nojvek 8y agoSometimes the company deserves it. you usually don’t want to burn bridges, true. However don’t ever let anyone treat you like shit. Walk away. Burn that bridge to the ground. Like the time where one of the seniors was clearly an asshole and was right on the border of racism. My manager wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize his promotion. He was clearly a bully. Fuck that bullshit. I walked away as soon as I got my green card.
- faissaloo 8y agoMy point is that losing your composure is undignified, let them be the angry ones, they should understand that you have lost nothing and it should eat away at them. Giving a 'fuck you' is in a way providing closure for them.
- softawre 8y agoTotally agree. It might feel good to drop the f-bomb on them but it's never in your best interest.
- int_19h 8y agoSo, basically, don't do it to hurt them more? What if you want to provide a closure for yourself, and don't care about them?
- faissaloo 8y agoExactly. You should be good enough at what you do that you are never the one in need of closure.
- int_19h 8y agoClosure is an emotional thing that is not necessarily (in fact, I'd say not usually) connected to "being good enough" in any meaningful sense. If anything, it can be the opposite - when you realize that you have been treated in a way that is far beneath the value that you were providing, the realization of that fact can very well lead to a "fuck you".
- KorematsuFred 8y agoSometimes the employee deserves to vent out his anger. He needs closure. He needs that satisfaction that after years of exploitation and humiliation he had the final word. "Don't burn your bridges" is a good advice only when ghosts of your past are not going to cross the bridge and attack you in future. In many cases you should set the bridge on fire and destroy it till the last brick.