These kinds of assumptions are a recipe for misery. And laws are not a way to police how things are _supposed_ to be. If you want a reasonably good chance of

These kinds of assumptions are a recipe for misery. And laws are not a way to police how things are _supposed_ to be. If you want a reasonably good chance of knowing that your potential love interest respects you, there's really only one good way to do it. You talk with them for a long time, months, without having sex. All those things the old-timers did? They did them for a reason.