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I liked this article a lot. The implication of him asking for consent was that he respected her. Three things reveal that wasn’t true: his non-understanding of

I liked this article a lot. The implication of him asking for consent was that he respected her. Three things reveal that wasn’t true: his non-understanding of what is intimate in sex, his not believing she needed to ask for consent, and his decision to ignore her when he was done. The conversation around consent is _supposed_ to be about respect. Unfortunately some people don’t actually care about respecting others, and just use consent as a means of covering their ass legally.

towaway1138 8y ago
These kinds of assumptions are a recipe for misery. And laws are not a way to police how things are _supposed_ to be. If you want a reasonably good chance of knowing that your potential love interest respects you, there's really only one good way to do it. You talk with them for a long time, months, without having sex. All those things the old-timers did? They did them for a reason.