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Yes, the article is shitty. But I'm surprised there aren't more people discussing the headline. The simplest reason why not to helicopter parent, in my opinion
by owenversteeg 8y ago
Yes, the article is shitty. But I'm surprised there aren't more people discussing the headline.
The simplest reason why not to helicopter parent, in my opinion, is that it doesn't produce people I'd like to be around. With exceptions, of course, but by and large true. Helicopter-parented kids who follow their parents' carefully set path just feel... artificial, to me.
- Loughla 8y agoThey lack resilience in my experience. I've worked in higher education for most of my adult life (except for that stint out of grad school in retail, and most of those lessons apply also), and I can spot someone with overbearing/helicopter parents in the first conversation. They genuinely don't know what to do when they meet a challenge. They may be smart, they may be creative thinkers and problem solvers in a million different ways. But when there is a problem in their life, like a girlfriend breaking up with them, or a course not transferring between schools, or something like that, they just shut off. They either throw tantrums publicly, or, more likely, drop out and never show back up on campus. That's the problem with helicopter parents. They raise kids with 0 resiliency. I have literally no research to back this up, but I believe it's connected to the uptick in teenage suicides in my area. Kids are raised to have no resiliency, so at the first 'major' issue (and everything is major to teenagers), they just throw their hands up because it IS the worst thing they've ever encountered.