It seems like there was a failure on every side: The recipient messed up by trying to do something she had contractually agreed to not do (contact the donor or

It seems like there was a failure on every side: The recipient messed up by trying to do something she had contractually agreed to not do (contact the donor or donor's relatives). The donor did something he shouldn't have done if he didn't want to be contacted (put himself on a DNA site with the ability of people to contact him). The sperm bank could have handled it with a little bit lighter hand by contacting the recipient once before jumping to legal threats.