You, who do not have to bear the cost of the policy, should be less harsh with the people who do. For example, we might make a law saying mothers shouldn't leav

You, who do not have to bear the cost of the policy, should be less harsh with the people who do. For example, we might make a law saying mothers shouldn't leave their children alone at home. Then we could say "You horrible mother, you left your kids alone, you're going to jail". But we are not the ones who have to spend our whole day watching the kids, trapped and exhausted. We should recognize the higher contribution we're asking from the mothers by saying "Unfortunately, for the sake of the children, we have this penalty for having left them alone. We understand that one can be in a rush, so next time we encourage you to team up with other mothers to watch each other's children." For one thing, the harsh reactions keep the people you're regulating from even being able to let you know how hard it is on them.