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> Kindness and caring is probably more effective than anything else, no matter what you want to achieve How so?

• stareatgoats 8y ago
  It's not exactly clear what you're asking, but the quoted statement is just one of those things I find probable, as illustrated by this article for example. Granted, it is (sadly) not conventional wisdom.
• gambiting 8y ago
  Well, I can easily imagine that it could be literally impossible to break a sufficiently determined person, if someone doesn't want to speak then they will endure incredible amounts of torture without breaking. History is full of examples like this. But if you spend the same time befriending them and making them feel like they are on the same side as you....then it's hard to imagine it couldn't lead to a positive outcome.
  • shusson 8y ago
    > I can easily imagine that it could be literally impossible to break a sufficiently determined person Yes I agree and the recent report on the CIA shows some evidence for that [1]. > But if you spend the same time befriending them and making them feel like they are on the same side as you....then it's hard to imagine it couldn't lead to a positive outcome. This I have a harder time believing, and besides this article, I didn't know of any evidence. [1] https://www.amnestyusa.org/pdfs/sscistudy1.pdf https://www.amnestyusa.org/pdfs/sscistudy1.pdf