My "own interests" are to be a good example to my kids, so they themselves don't become selfish people. There's a dichotomy here, self interest working side by

My "own interests" are to be a good example to my kids, so they themselves don't become selfish people. There's a dichotomy here, self interest working side by side with interests for others. You simply cannot help others if you don't do what is right for yourself. The trick is to find the things that are right for both/multiple parties, not _only_ yourself. There's possibly no such things a pure selflessness. Even an act of giving provides a benefit to the giver, even if it's only an emotional one. And, I am allowed to disregard everyone else's opinions, it's a fundamental right of every living being. More importantly, if we only rely (or somehow over value) science instead of common sense, then all it takes is another counter argument from "science" to change our minds. This is being blown around by the wind instead of thinking for yourself.