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I am not depressed, but I am often annoyed by the idiots that won't stop staring at their phones when getting onto or off of the elevator. I can be annoyed wit

I am not depressed, but I am often annoyed by the idiots that won't stop staring at their phones when getting onto or off of the elevator. I can be annoyed without being depressed. I am not related to these ding-dongs, so it's only their progeny that should be depressed.

fifnir 8y ago
You might be depressed
- LinuxBender 8y ago
  Nope. Quite happy. I just want to get on the elevator before the door closes and I have to wait another 5 minutes.
  - klodolph 8y ago
    I have no reason to disbelieve you when you say that you’re not depressed, but depression is not the same thing as sadness or the absence of happiness. You can be happy and depressed at the same time.
  - jamessantiago 8y ago
    Does waiting another 5 minutes really matter that much? It could be worse, I suppose, maybe there could be no elevator and you'd need to climb the stairs. Maybe there could be a line to the stairs. Maybe this isn't a symptom of depression per se, but such anger seems to be to be a factor of discontent that still may benefit from therapy or self-help.
  - LinuxBender 8y ago
    It sounds like you folks really want me to be depressed. :-) I can say, having been raised by a psychoanalyst, that I certainly have issues, but depression just isn't one of them.
  - magduf 8y ago
    Maybe you should take the stairs.
coleifer 8y ago
I definitely get that, too. I pull up at the stoplight next to a lady in the other car, she's on facebook, looking at pictures and videos of other people. I want to shout, "hey, what the fuck? Wake up." And then I think about her as a person. With needs, desires, fears. A complete person, just as much as I'm a complete person. The initial reaction softens and I have compassion for her because we're the same.
- LinuxBender 8y ago
  My personality is a bit different than yours. For right or wrong, I used to think like that, then I realized I was allowing people to walk all over me. I no longer allow such shenanigans and I feel 500% better for it.
  - coleifer 8y ago
    Yeah, I have a suspicious streak (paranoid? I don't know, maybe?), too. That comes with a deep fear of being taken advantage of, a fear of being a sucker, a mark, a rube, whatever. I am mistrustful of other people's motives, and assume the worst. What has counteracted that tendency, which I think may be partly innate, partly learned (a paranoia spectrum?), is two things: 1) the only reason anybody ever wants to tear me down is to build themselves up, and having been guilty of that myself, I can have compassion for them, and 2) I have found that I can put faith in the universe that, so long as I do the right thing, I go to bed with a sense of dignity and am not so afraid. That's not to say I don't have boundaries. I can have boundaries without taking it personally when others cross them, though.

fifnir 8y ago

You might be depressed

LinuxBender 8y ago
Nope. Quite happy. I just want to get on the elevator before the door closes and I have to wait another 5 minutes.
- klodolph 8y ago
  I have no reason to disbelieve you when you say that you’re not depressed, but depression is not the same thing as sadness or the absence of happiness. You can be happy and depressed at the same time.
- jamessantiago 8y ago
  Does waiting another 5 minutes really matter that much? It could be worse, I suppose, maybe there could be no elevator and you'd need to climb the stairs. Maybe there could be a line to the stairs. Maybe this isn't a symptom of depression per se, but such anger seems to be to be a factor of discontent that still may benefit from therapy or self-help.
- LinuxBender 8y ago
  It sounds like you folks really want me to be depressed. :-) I can say, having been raised by a psychoanalyst, that I certainly have issues, but depression just isn't one of them.
- magduf 8y ago
  Maybe you should take the stairs.

coleifer 8y ago

I definitely get that, too. I pull up at the stoplight next to a lady in the other car, she's on facebook, looking at pictures and videos of other people. I want to shout, "hey, what the fuck? Wake up." And then I think about her as a person. With needs, desires, fears. A complete person, just as much as I'm a complete person. The initial reaction softens and I have compassion for her because we're the same.

LinuxBender 8y ago
My personality is a bit different than yours. For right or wrong, I used to think like that, then I realized I was allowing people to walk all over me. I no longer allow such shenanigans and I feel 500% better for it.
- coleifer 8y ago
  Yeah, I have a suspicious streak (paranoid? I don't know, maybe?), too. That comes with a deep fear of being taken advantage of, a fear of being a sucker, a mark, a rube, whatever. I am mistrustful of other people's motives, and assume the worst. What has counteracted that tendency, which I think may be partly innate, partly learned (a paranoia spectrum?), is two things: 1) the only reason anybody ever wants to tear me down is to build themselves up, and having been guilty of that myself, I can have compassion for them, and 2) I have found that I can put faith in the universe that, so long as I do the right thing, I go to bed with a sense of dignity and am not so afraid. That's not to say I don't have boundaries. I can have boundaries without taking it personally when others cross them, though.