Are you asking why they are incapable of finding sexual partners if they have some basic level of social competence? The incel movement is mostly a self fulfil

Are you asking why they are incapable of finding sexual partners if they have some basic level of social competence? The incel movement is mostly a self fulfilling prophecy. A group of men who failed to get partners and rather than attributing the failure to themselves, attributed it to the women. Thinking that they are low quality males and it is the women’s fault that their standards are too high. In the absence of this belief, they could probably find someone as you say. But they have convinced themselves that women as a collective will not accept men of their caliber. It’s an unusual message of “it’s not my fault I’m bad” and you won’t find much logic to it. Basically it’s angry men with low self esteem but high entitlement.