Saying it's not sexual assault doesn't mean the person's feelings aren't real, or that they weren't victimized, or didn't feel violated. It simply means you ca

Saying it's not sexual assault doesn't mean the person's feelings aren't real, or that they weren't victimized, or didn't feel violated. It simply means you can not accuse the person performing the search of sexual assault. Accusing the TSA agent, who was doing their job of searching a passenger with (I'm hoping) no sexual intent, of sexual assault creates a second victim, and is extremely irresponsible and unethical. For the most part, yes, it doesn't matter what the victim thinks when deciding whether to accuse someone of sexual assault. If I throw a wild pitch and hit you in the head, it's different than throwing an accurate pitch at your head, even if you can't tell the difference. Both are bad - but one is assault. Intent matters.