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We've all done it, and often had to, which is the root of the problem. When I was under 10, both sets of grandparents and four of five aunts and uncles were wi
by NeedMoreTea 8y ago
We've all done it, and often had to, which is the root of the problem.
When I was under 10, both sets of grandparents and four of five aunts and uncles were within 10 miles, most under 3. Now we're all over the place and a visit isn't a regular frequent thing but a major, rarer, trip.
As I'm in my mid fifties some of the future looks rather bleak. Add longer life expectancy after retirement and for most, better mental and physical health, and you end up with many more years to contemplate your loneliness.
I saw one story a few years back of a retirement home that combined a nursery. Which turned out to be a huge boost for both the kid's development, parents, and the old folks. Every day they would have joint activities. Sounded a great idea that we need far more of, rather than occasional novelty worth reporting.
- slavik81 8y agoLast I'd heard, American labour mobility had been declining for decades. In 2011, the percentage of US residents who moved to a different state for work was half the rate from 1991 [1]. Though, I'd be curious to see what the data looks like beyond those dates. [1]: https://www.economist.com/finance-and-economics/2012/07/07/move-over https://www.economist.com/finance-and-economics/2012/07/07/m...
- NeedMoreTea 8y agoI'd be interested in similar for the UK, but can't quickly turn up a similar graph or stats for here. I'm now curious of the picture since the war, as the picture for families seems to have changed quite significantly.
- blue4 8y agohttps://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/101-minka https://www.gimletmedia.com/reply-all/101-minka This podcast episode is all about getting rid of nursing homes and it sort of talks about the way it should be. Communal, and a split of ages.
- pelagic_sky 8y agoAs I read this, I was envisioning a plant nursery, which I thought was a genius idea. Give the old people something simple to do like take care of plants! I guess children would work too. :)
- softawre 8y agoNot all of us have done it. I'm staying in the Midwest as a software engineer so I can be near my parents. I might not make 300k but I'm doing well and I see my family once a week at least. It just depends what your priorities are. Cats in the cradle.
- magduf 8y agoIf I lived closer to my parents, I could totally forget about ever dating again. Sorry, a lifetime of loneliness isn't worth that.