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Someone should tell these guys about the Rock Test: https://medium.com/@annevictoriaclark/the-rock-test-a-hack-for-men-who-dont-want-to-be-accused-of-sexual-ha

• etxm 8y ago
  Does that mean Karen’s rich ass is going to buy me coffee??
  • dools 8y ago
    What does that have to do with sexual harassment?
    • etxm 8y ago
      I was a half baked joke referencing Karen in the Rock article.
• bassman9000 8y ago
  Article misses the point. It's not the fear of being denounced for being inappropriate. It's the fear of being denounced even when you behave appropriately.
  • dools 8y ago
    Which is about as probable as being struck by lightning, being the victim of a terrorist attack or being bitten by a shark. All these things belong in the Jeopardy category "remote risks that loom large in popular culture for no good reason".
    • WalterSear 8y ago
      From multiple experiences, I know this to be untrue. It's consequently misandrist. And softly misogynist.
    • glenra 8y ago
      An American getting struck by lightning might be on the order of a one-in-a-million annual risk, but it's still a really bad thing if it happens TO YOU, so it's sensible we minimize our risk by choosing not to go out on golf courses during thunderstorms or choosing to install lightning rods on church towers. (The low mathematical risk already prices in the fact that we take such measures - the risk level would be much higher if we didn't!) Getting falsely accused of sexual impropriety may be a low risk (whatever the base rate might be), but it's still really bad if it happens TO YOU so it's sensible that we minimize our personal risk with relatively low-cost policies such as the Pence Rule. (Once again, the low risk already prices in the fact that some take some such measures - the risk would be much higher if they didn't.) Terrorist attack basically doesn't ever happen (statistically speaking) while our attempts to prevent it via mechanisms like the TSA are absurdly costly to the point of sheer idiocy, but cheaper simpler policies like "don't swim where there have been recent shark sightings", "don't carry metal golf clubs around in a thunderstorm" and "don't put yourself at undue risk of false gossip or malicious attack" seem basically sensible and proportionate to the risk being addressed.
    • bassman9000 8y ago
      https://qz.com/980766/the-truth-about-false-rape-accusations/ https://qz.com/980766/the-truth-about-false-rape-accusations... Between 2 and 10% is a bit higher than that, and absolutely justify the fear.
• aklemm 8y ago
  Typically I think this is the right answer, but what is the appropriate way to turn things romantic?
  • dools 8y ago
    If you're in a position of power, wait until you're not or the other person does the romancing. Patience is a virtue.
• WalterSear 8y ago
  That article treats this issue so flippantly as to be condescending.
  • dools 8y ago
    To whom?
    • WalterSear 8y ago
      I get the feeling, from your other comments here, that you are attempting to invalidate my perspective by pretending not to understand it.
      • dools 8y ago
        I get the feeling from your other comments here that you should spend less time watching Jordan Peterson videos on YouTube