I disagree with #4, your manager giving negative feedback. Asking a manager to clarify the feedback shouldn't put that manager on the defensive. If the manager

I disagree with #4, your manager giving negative feedback. Asking a manager to clarify the feedback shouldn't put that manager on the defensive. If the manager hasn't gone to the trouble of getting those details then they need to be educated on how to deliver negative feedback. Instead of simply saying "I hear you. I will be more mindful of that in the future.", a more productive response would be: "Based on what you've shared it's not clear to me exactly what I did wrong or how I might do things differently in a similar situation in the future. Are there additional details you can share? <if they answer no:> Can you get those details so that I can make this a part of my learning plan?" <if they waffle:> What advice do you have for me for how to better handle this situation in the future?" You've now educated the manager as to what level of detail you need when it comes to feedback. They should know that they can't just toss incoming feedback over the transom. They need to dig into the details and do what it takes to help you grow.