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I personally find ghosting to be a quite useful strategy in a limited range of scenarios. The scenario is basically whenever you need to reject someone but rej

I personally find ghosting to be a quite useful strategy in a limited range of scenarios. The scenario is basically whenever you need to reject someone but rejecting them directly would lead to significant costs to you (e.g. having to listen to someone argue, cajole or shout at you to change your mind). I think the rejectees can reduce the incidence of ghosting by eliminating those costs. If someone rejects you, simply accept the rejection without complaint.

renholder 8y ago
>If someone rejects you, simply accept the rejection without complaint. Ghosting and rejecting are not immediately synonymous to someone who's never been ghosted before. In fact, ghosting is still a relatively new term, in this sense, confined to originating within this decade (I believe). Stating for someone to simply accept the rejection without complaint is expecting it to be a standard everywhere, when that most probably is not going to be the case. Ghosting seems to specific to the American culture and, even then, this doesn't implicitly mean that everyone will "get the hint", as it were, if they've never been exposed to it before.
- elindbe2 8y ago
  I'm not claiming ghosting and rejection are synonymous. Rather, I'm saying ghosting is a useful way of rejecting someone in certain circumstances. I'm also not claiming that one can completely eliminate ghosting by accepting rejection, but I think you'll find it reduced.
drugme 8y ago
A very limited range of scenarios. Like (in the dating or social context) when the other party has already crossed some important line in some fashion (e.g. by acting outright abusively). In the vast majority of cases, it's really much better all around to at least try to close the loop properly and decently -- even if it runs the risk of some "cost" to yourself (which in most cases - such as having someone argue with you - really is quite trivial).
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renholder 8y ago

>If someone rejects you, simply accept the rejection without complaint. Ghosting and rejecting are not immediately synonymous to someone who's never been ghosted before. In fact, ghosting is still a relatively new term, in this sense, confined to originating within this decade (I believe). Stating for someone to simply accept the rejection without complaint is expecting it to be a standard everywhere, when that most probably is not going to be the case. Ghosting seems to specific to the American culture and, even then, this doesn't implicitly mean that everyone will "get the hint", as it were, if they've never been exposed to it before.

elindbe2 8y ago
I'm not claiming ghosting and rejection are synonymous. Rather, I'm saying ghosting is a useful way of rejecting someone in certain circumstances. I'm also not claiming that one can completely eliminate ghosting by accepting rejection, but I think you'll find it reduced.

drugme 8y ago

A very limited range of scenarios. Like (in the dating or social context) when the other party has already crossed some important line in some fashion (e.g. by acting outright abusively). In the vast majority of cases, it's really much better all around to at least try to close the loop properly and decently -- even if it runs the risk of some "cost" to yourself (which in most cases - such as having someone argue with you - really is quite trivial).

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