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>Somebody positions themselves at the door as some sort of guard, and harasses everybody going through. So often just to feel like they're the boss or something
by longerthoughts 8y ago
>Somebody positions themselves at the door as some sort of guard, and harasses everybody going through. So often just to feel like they're the boss or something.
I've noticed this outside of the CR process as well. When people are tasked with providing a critique, it's as if they feel obligated to say something because they're treating the task as "find something wrong with X" not "determine if anything is wrong with X". Sometimes it seems like people trying to exert their power, but often it's more like people are just trying to prove that they're adding value.
- hluska 8y ago> Sometimes it seems like people trying to exert their power, but often it's more like people are just trying to prove that they're adding value. If you work with people like this a lot, try introducing a shit sandwich to your company. Before you call your caterer, let me explain what that is...:) My Dad taught me that when you have to criticize/correct something, do so in a shit sandwich. Start off with positives, then express your criticism and then end with positives. Thinking about positives tends to ground people and get them to evaluate the situation, not merely come out with negativity to prove their worth...
- drbojingle 8y agoThis is common enough that everyone would know what you're doing and think you only said the nice things so you could say the negative :P
- hluska 8y agoGood point - sincerity is a big if in this process. If the good is genuine, this is an acceptable tradeoff, especially because thinking about positive things often makes the negative more gentle and more constructive.