He wrote letters, and she's posing as her clients, so this seems roughly equivalent. Which to me personally is a step to far. If you're getting tips or even li

He wrote letters, and she's posing as her clients, so this seems roughly equivalent. Which to me personally is a step to far. If you're getting tips or even literal phrases, you still have the option of not using or changing them. Not even participating in the courtship until the first date seems morally unsound. The matchmakers of old would be the dating service itself. Or maybe their shoddy algorithms.