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That is true. But if you are successful enough to afford such a service that means that you are a well developed and successful personality that basically dones

by Viker 8y ago

That is true. But if you are successful enough to afford such a service that means that you are a well developed and successful personality that basically dones't have time to treat every woman like a magical princess. Clients have needs and are willing to pay for the services required. Rich people also have drivers. That doesn't mean they can't drive.

onemoresoop 8y ago
If you choose to take it in your hands, to manage it yourself, you gain more, a good circumstance for self reflection you won't meet too often. If you see it as a service, sure, if you are very successful and don't have time that someone literally has to manage your dating, then more to you I guess... On the other hand, for people who are bad and incorrigible at self reflection, a serious matchmaker who knows you well can do a good job in finding you a suitable partner. But somehow I distrust this kind of online service, and that's me. "Local" matchmaking seems to be working in smaller communities.
- Viker 8y ago
  Yes I can fully agree with you. If a person is clearly struggling with attracting the opposite Sex, then it is certain that persinalised and tailored help will be more benificial, but in the case with this survice, I see like a luxoroise tool to pay yourself out of some of the more mundaine tasks in the current sexual market.
g_sch 8y ago
> But if you are successful enough to afford such a service that means that you are a well developed and successful personality that basically dones't have time to treat every woman like a magical princess. I wouldn't be so confident in the personal virtues of wealthy people if I were you.
tastroder 8y ago
Last time I talked to a driver they didn't lie to me and pretend to be their client. The moral problem here, at least for me, is intentional deception, users of such a service actively pay somebody to lie to another person. That sounds like a great start for a solid relationship. The article makes is pretty clear that she hides her client's emotional baggage, which in principle is what most people do but how is she sure that transfers to the situation where the client actually meets the other person? Having a few thousand quids disposable might as well mean the client is desparate or simply inapt at social interactions, not sure why that would magically mean the exact opposite to be quiet honest. Being "nice" can hardly be considered a necessary prerequisite for making money.
- Viker 8y ago
  The same can be said about make up, hi heels, botox, and other kind of plastic surgery. It is a service to assist in the cover up of a 'perceived' flaw. Can that also be called deception, regardless of how permanent the solution is ?
  - tastroder 8y ago
    I mean, if you like. I find these equivalences weird, of course you try to make a good first impression but I see a pretty big difference between make up / outfits, etc. and hiring somebody to pretend to be the best side of a fake you. The latter is an intentional lie, while the former is socially accepted, pretty transparent and more importantly expected - it's not like we assume the other person wakes up in full makeup / a nice suit. As for the permanent measures you bring forward, it's not like even modern and progressive societies aren't still split on purely esthetical beauty surgery. But then again that's an odd example because that's people's own choice and permanently changes their own looks so I do not really see how that really relates to the service debated here.

by Viker 8y ago

onemoresoop 8y ago

If you choose to take it in your hands, to manage it yourself, you gain more, a good circumstance for self reflection you won't meet too often. If you see it as a service, sure, if you are very successful and don't have time that someone literally has to manage your dating, then more to you I guess... On the other hand, for people who are bad and incorrigible at self reflection, a serious matchmaker who knows you well can do a good job in finding you a suitable partner. But somehow I distrust this kind of online service, and that's me. "Local" matchmaking seems to be working in smaller communities.

Viker 8y ago
Yes I can fully agree with you. If a person is clearly struggling with attracting the opposite Sex, then it is certain that persinalised and tailored help will be more benificial, but in the case with this survice, I see like a luxoroise tool to pay yourself out of some of the more mundaine tasks in the current sexual market.

g_sch 8y ago

> But if you are successful enough to afford such a service that means that you are a well developed and successful personality that basically dones't have time to treat every woman like a magical princess. I wouldn't be so confident in the personal virtues of wealthy people if I were you.

tastroder 8y ago

Last time I talked to a driver they didn't lie to me and pretend to be their client. The moral problem here, at least for me, is intentional deception, users of such a service actively pay somebody to lie to another person. That sounds like a great start for a solid relationship. The article makes is pretty clear that she hides her client's emotional baggage, which in principle is what most people do but how is she sure that transfers to the situation where the client actually meets the other person? Having a few thousand quids disposable might as well mean the client is desparate or simply inapt at social interactions, not sure why that would magically mean the exact opposite to be quiet honest. Being "nice" can hardly be considered a necessary prerequisite for making money.

Viker 8y ago
The same can be said about make up, hi heels, botox, and other kind of plastic surgery. It is a service to assist in the cover up of a 'perceived' flaw. Can that also be called deception, regardless of how permanent the solution is ?
- tastroder 8y ago
  I mean, if you like. I find these equivalences weird, of course you try to make a good first impression but I see a pretty big difference between make up / outfits, etc. and hiring somebody to pretend to be the best side of a fake you. The latter is an intentional lie, while the former is socially accepted, pretty transparent and more importantly expected - it's not like we assume the other person wakes up in full makeup / a nice suit. As for the permanent measures you bring forward, it's not like even modern and progressive societies aren't still split on purely esthetical beauty surgery. But then again that's an odd example because that's people's own choice and permanently changes their own looks so I do not really see how that really relates to the service debated here.