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Seems like every aspect of our lives is becoming like a big job hunt. Putting in all the right keywords regardless of whether they apply to you or not. Making y

Seems like every aspect of our lives is becoming like a big job hunt. Putting in all the right keywords regardless of whether they apply to you or not. Making yourself look better artificially at the cost of authenticity. smh.

ssnistfajen 8y ago
My Tinder experience was exactly like a job hunt. Even complete with matches ghosting you after some promising convos (employers ignoring you despite promising to get in contact after good interviews).
ddeokbokki 8y ago
You may chose to not live that life. We tend to only see the superficial personalities on social media mostly because they're the most vocal imo.
elliekelly 8y ago
"You’re always looking for a job, apartment or a boyfriend."[1] In the beginning, Craigslist was the online market for all three. Then the markets specialized and we got Monster.com, Match.com, and Zillow. Now we've moved on-demand with the "gig economy", AirBNB, and Tinder. Is the next shift consolidation? Book your apartment for the night, your date for the night, and a freelance gig to pay for it all in the same app? [1] Yes I did just quote Sex and the City on HN.
lotsofpulp 8y ago
A job hunt is just selling yourself and dating is selling yourself as a good partner. Networking events and friendships are also selling yourself, since you can’t possibly give the same time and importance to everyone, so you need to pick and choose.
- strikelaserclaw 8y ago
  Don't know about you but i never had to "sell" myself to make friends. It's the mechanization of human experiences and emotions due to technology that scares me the most of all. It's putting numbers on unquantifiable things and convincing society that it is indeed quantifiable. What next? Some "visionary" comes up with a way to rate our all attributes on an n dimensional scale, and we all strive in our lives to make those numbers go up? "Introducing FB person ratings, where we rate things like dating desirability, job efficiency, intelligence, charm" Then tinder will hook into this system and suddenly we have people putting " >85 attractiveness, >70 charm" in their profiles as preferences. That kind of world, which i hope will never happen, will be a complete shit hole imo.
  - lotsofpulp 8y ago
    Even if you don’t think of it as selling, it is. The way you speak, the actions you do, the interests you have, the way you look are all being interpreted by others, and everyone is consciously or subconsciously determining whether or not someone is worth more of their time.

ssnistfajen 8y ago

My Tinder experience was exactly like a job hunt. Even complete with matches ghosting you after some promising convos (employers ignoring you despite promising to get in contact after good interviews).

ddeokbokki 8y ago

You may chose to not live that life. We tend to only see the superficial personalities on social media mostly because they're the most vocal imo.

elliekelly 8y ago

"You’re always looking for a job, apartment or a boyfriend."[1] In the beginning, Craigslist was the online market for all three. Then the markets specialized and we got Monster.com, Match.com, and Zillow. Now we've moved on-demand with the "gig economy", AirBNB, and Tinder. Is the next shift consolidation? Book your apartment for the night, your date for the night, and a freelance gig to pay for it all in the same app? [1] Yes I did just quote Sex and the City on HN.

lotsofpulp 8y ago

A job hunt is just selling yourself and dating is selling yourself as a good partner. Networking events and friendships are also selling yourself, since you can’t possibly give the same time and importance to everyone, so you need to pick and choose.

strikelaserclaw 8y ago
Don't know about you but i never had to "sell" myself to make friends. It's the mechanization of human experiences and emotions due to technology that scares me the most of all. It's putting numbers on unquantifiable things and convincing society that it is indeed quantifiable. What next? Some "visionary" comes up with a way to rate our all attributes on an n dimensional scale, and we all strive in our lives to make those numbers go up? "Introducing FB person ratings, where we rate things like dating desirability, job efficiency, intelligence, charm" Then tinder will hook into this system and suddenly we have people putting " >85 attractiveness, >70 charm" in their profiles as preferences. That kind of world, which i hope will never happen, will be a complete shit hole imo.
- lotsofpulp 8y ago
  Even if you don’t think of it as selling, it is. The way you speak, the actions you do, the interests you have, the way you look are all being interpreted by others, and everyone is consciously or subconsciously determining whether or not someone is worth more of their time.