I'm on this train too, I cut ties with my mother last fall. she loves me but it comes out in toxic ways that she doesn't seem to have insight into. as i've gro

I'm on this train too, I cut ties with my mother last fall. she loves me but it comes out in toxic ways that she doesn't seem to have insight into. as i've grown in life, things have gotten harder and harder with her as we continue to (naturally) grow apart. it got worse when i got engaged, then worse when married, then worse when we had kids. when it became clear that her only motivation in the relationship was adulation from me, and that she was willing to sabotoge or hold-hostage other relationships to get her way (withholding attention from my kids, accusing my wife of being against her, etc), I realized this wasn't healthy. it makes me sad that there was no other option. but i don't regret it.