Why do you feel the need to dismiss others' suffering, because it wasn't hard-core enough? Is locking the skinny kid in a locker until he pisses himself real b

Why do you feel the need to dismiss others' suffering, because it wasn't hard-core enough? Is locking the skinny kid in a locker until he pisses himself real bullying? Is one kid holding another one down while a second one punches him real bullying? It may not be guns, knives and chains, but the suffering is real. Also, what makes this kind of middle-class bullying worse is that A) it's not expected -- it's different from the rest of these kids' lives, which are non-violent B) educated middle-class parents give their kids bad advice like "don't fight back, violence doesn't solve anything".