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Coming from a larger geek here. In many cases the threat stops immediately but it doesn't change the nature of the abuse. I had other kids hit me in the face an
by johngalt 16y ago
Coming from a larger geek here. In many cases the threat stops immediately but it doesn't change the nature of the abuse. I had other kids hit me in the face and run away. If I pursued them I was the bully. So I was left with two options; pursue and be the monster, or get used to being hit unexpectedly.
With all the highlighting of bullying recently, it's reminds me that there could easily be a different dynamic here. Kids are smart and adapt to rules. If they can control someone with accusations of bullying, they will do so. Remember that being a bully isn't about size it's about abusive intent.
- FooBarWidget 16y agoYou can apply the same surprise-attack and bully-accusation strategies on them, can you not?
- johngalt 16y agoIf a kid that weighs 130lbs complains about the kid that weighs 200lbs, he is taken seriously. It's not the same in reverse.
- gte910h 16y agoThere was a size disparity there of a similar nature (although it was more like 130 vs 90 at that age most likely) with two different guys I dealt with in middle school who were just constant with the random hitting/slapping (their favorite)/other annoying/embarrassing things. Once I got a warning (I literally dented a gym locker with his head, to the coaches amusement), the other time an in school suspension (picked up kid, threw into chalkboard), but both stopped the harassment. The other kid may have been punished too, but don't honestly care: As they were then leery of me, I was then no longer constantly harassed by them. The point isn't to "win" by getting them punished by the administration and reforming them from their bullying ways; it's to assert "I am not the lowest status guy, go find someone else to screw with"