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What you need to do is demonstrate that you are willing to escalate things beyond a reasonable level. It's not about strength, but about willingness to go the d
by bena 16y ago
What you need to do is demonstrate that you are willing to escalate things beyond a reasonable level. It's not about strength, but about willingness to go the distance.
Someone shoves you: throw a chair through a window, flip a few desks, go completely ape-shit. Make it known that you are willing to cause lasting and permanent damage for the slightest offense. Pretty soon no one will want to cause that slightest offense.
This is an intelligent tactic. And will preemptively stop a lot of aggression.
Kids don't take dumps in hallways because it can negatively impact them. They will take dumps in hallways they don't frequent just for kicks.
- uxp 16y ago> throw a chair through a window. I think every party involved would prefer if personal conflicts between two high school kids didn't result in unnecessary property damage. Otherwise, I agree. Going "ape-shit", all in, is what will prove the point that you shouldn't be fucked with.
- pjscott 16y agoProperty damage can serve one purpose: getting the school administrators to care about the situation. The school administrators I've met have never given a damn about bullying, but they care quite a lot about not being inconvenienced. Property damage is inconvenient. I'm not sure how getting the administration involved would help the situation, but I suppose it might.
- Tichy 16y agoActually it seems to me that is exactly what would let the bullies win: see how crazy that kid is? Let's tease him some more and see how crazy he can get.
- bena 16y agoNot if they're the targets. Do you really want to see how homicidal someone else can get towards you?
- Tichy 16y agoI certainly don't want to be friends with somebody who might turn psycho/homicidal on me one day. So maybe your strategy would work in getting rid of the bullies, but it would probably drive away everybody else, too (people who might have become friends).
- bena 16y agoIf you are physically assaulting your friends, then maybe they don't want you around to begin with. This is a response to violence. If someone gets violent with you, become excessively violent with them.
- Jach 16y agoSo no longer eye-for-eye, but two eyes-for-eye? I'm not sure this strategy has worked out well in human history. Personally, I'm okay with violence as a last-resort disabling tactic, enough force to stop the aggressor and calm them down, nothing more, then you can proceed with reason.
- fleitz 16y agoExactly, why do you think they send people to jail for not paying taxes, by escalating things beyond a reasonable level, they get people to pay. The mafia uses a similar methodology to collect its protection payments.