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But it is more or less what you said: > [...] women need to know what works and what doesn't. I think men and women need to not treat people as sex objects re
by davelnewton 8y ago
But it is more or less what you said:
> [...] women need to know what works and what doesn't.
I think men and women need to not treat people as sex objects regardless of how they dress. Saying that "women need to know 'what works'" is precisely victim-blaming, because it puts the onus on women, not men, to be responsible for men's behavior.
(Any genders above can be replaced with any other gender classification; it's irrelevant to the point.)
- DoreenMichele 8y agoI'm talking about a genuine need for knowledge so one can navigate a challenging situation. That's not putting the onus on women.
- davelnewton 8y agoKnowledge is good. You may not have meant the onus on women--but to me it really sounded like it. By saying "women need to know what works" (again, to me) it sounds like "women need to understand that there is a certain way the world is, and if you want to fit in to that world, you must play by the world's rules". My point of view is that if men are being assholes because BOOBIES!!1! then men are being assholes, and it's men who need to know "what works." The world's rules are skewed at the moment: IMO telling women that they need to know "what works" attacks a symptom, not a problem.