It isn't real love to "talk it out" with them anyway. If it doesn't bless them and yourself it's not love anyway. Things as they actually are is the only way t

It isn't real love to "talk it out" with them anyway. If it doesn't bless them and yourself it's not love anyway. Things as they actually are is the only way that they are in truth. So the teaching that it's loving them is what's false -- not that love itself couldn't help. In this case, it was a kind of love of oneself to fight back and protect oneself.