Not really sure what the point of your comment is? Are you asking the NH community to feel sorry for you? You made some life choices about what's important to y

Not really sure what the point of your comment is? Are you asking the NH community to feel sorry for you? You made some life choices about what's important to you and that's great. The OP made their life choices and decided to study and work their way into on those companies. Besides that, I work with plenty of people who are married with kids. Sure, at the end of the day, there's some amount of luck, but they didn't get in because someone felt sorry for them.