Sometimes it is enough to tell people that you're here for them, to simply be present and acknowledge their loss. It is difficult to write such letters when you

Sometimes it is enough to tell people that you're here for them, to simply be present and acknowledge their loss. It is difficult to write such letters when you've not experienced loss yourself, and then when you have, you know how a good letter reads. The best are simple, hand-written notes that contain a brief sometimes funny story about the person you lost. Lastly, you make friends and lose friends during these periods as some expect you to get over your grief and others just hang in there with you.